The Sanctuary
A gathering place for soulful, feminine beings to soften stress, deepen intuition, and awaken the sacred through sumptuous, sensory living
In a world that feels more loud and chaotic than ever, finding a place of sanctuary isn’t a luxury—it’s a necessity.
With never ending distractions and demands on your attention, and technology growing at lightning speed, we need a place to return to the basic building blocks of presence - touch, taste, smell, sound, and spirit.
Technology offers a kind of connection that stimulates our minds, but it doesn’t come close to the kind of connection we long for in our bodies.
As a result, you feel driven by a constant need to consume things that stimulate but don’t satisfy.
With a feminine epidemic of overthinking and under-feeling, your body wisdom may feel numb—like the arrow of your inner compass has lost its true north.
You want to feel present, embodied, awake — even if things aren’t perfect, you know that if you can find a way to reconnect with your body, you'll find the peace and inner power you crave.
So naturally, you turn to what you’ve always done: be better, do more.
You add more to your schedule — more meditation, more yoga, setting the alarm earlier and earlier, relying on your inner whistle-blowing scrimmage coach to summon the discipline…to be more embodied and relaxed. 🤔
But when you can’t stick to your self imposed, 10-minutes/day {insert difficult new habit} commitment, you feel like you’ve failed. Again.
Whew, my friend. Do I relate. But hear me on this great news:
Feeling unable to slow down and be present in your body and life is not a flaw or failing in you.
These are the inevitable consequences of a system that uplifts productivity, competition, and control as the path to fulfillment, while neglecting presence, emotional expression, and the simple pleasures of being alive in a body.
So it makes complete sense if…
You doubt your wisdom and power, when you’ve been conditioned to believe that your intuition is the last thing you should trust
Tending to the needs of your body and soul feel like an inconvenient detour the race to get everything done
You find yourself using hustle energy even for self-care, and relaxation feels like just another task on your to-do list
Feminine nervous systems find balance and flow in a different way than the masculine paradigm
Most stress relief and mindfulness practices, while wonderful, were created with masculine bodies, minds, and systems in mind.
Masculine-oriented systems are wired for problem solving, figuring things out, and taking action. Their bodies excel and re-balance through disciplined practices, vigorous exercise, sexual release, and time in solitude.
Feminine beings regulate through completely different means.
We thrive in creative expression, community bonding, emotional connection, and sensory pleasure.
If you are seeking…
A place to explore your femininity that feels sacred, home-like, silly, and sumptuous
To experience your feminine gifts as gorgeous, dazzling, worthy blooms in our collective human garden
To embrace your feminine nature and needs more than you suppress them
To make luxurious living and slowing down into a spiritual practice
To make pleasure, beauty, and desire your guiding forces
Then the warm glow of The Sanctuary was made for YOU.
The Sanctuary is a membership community where we explore a feminine, creative approach to mindfulness, spirituality and devotion through slow, sacred, sensory living.
Step Inside The Sanctuary
The Sanctuary is a rich collection of lessons, tools and rituals, as well as live mentorship, connection and community.
Each Month You’ll Receive These Gems To Nourish Your Feminine Nature
Live, Weekly Embodiment Practices to Nurture Your Feminine Rhythm
Step into“The Sanctuary Spa”, a guided, weekly, 30-minute feminine embodiment experience to refill your cup, cultivate beauty, rebalance your nervous system, and reconnect to your spirit.
Join us in a weekly spa-for-the-soul, featuring 30-minute guided movement rituals, radiance boosting beauty rituals, soulful writing rituals, and creative seasonal crafts!
Our schedule is rich, and designed to accommodate multiple time zones and preferences. Check out the schedule here.
Live New & Full Moon, Embodied Feminine Spirituality Circles
Twice monthly mini-retreats to align the rhythms of your body, grow your relationship with the Divine Feminine, and celebrate the beauty of the seasons.
Each new and full moon you’re invited to celebrate the divine within yourself, your life, and your community at our enchantment circles. You’ll hear a feminist spin on ancient myths, enjoy custom guided movement journeys, and engaging journaling, crafts, and ritual to nurture and grow your embodied feminine essence.
These circles happen on or around the full and new moons each month for 45 minutes, and are created and led by Mary
Weekly Lessons On Luxurious, Feminine Living In A Private Podcast
Each week, Mary shares her signature warmth and humor in a 15-minute, inspiring audio lesson and “ritual of loveliness”; a bite-sized practice to embody the theme of the episode and create profound transformation in your life through tiny shifts.
These weekly charms bring an infusion of beauty, joy and enchantment to the small corners of life, one ritual at a time.
Together we bring divinity to dishwashing, make skincare sacred, extoll the virtues of life’s tiny treasures, and cherish beauty and joy through the wonder of slow, sensory living.
Seasonal Living Support Bundles
The Seasonal Living Support Bundles guide you through the sacred rhythms of the year by honoring the turn of the seasons with teachings, meditations, and hands-on activities. Each bundle offers a blend of seasonal wisdom, meditations, rituals, and creative practices that help you cultivate deeper connection to nature, yourself, and the way spirit speaks through beauty and the senses, inviting more sacred living into your everyday life.
Plus These Gems of Connection & Support
•A Library of Self-Guided, Sensual Living Resources + Rituals Sink into relaxation as you browse our collection of over 20 soothing meditations, playful movement videos, fairy-godmother beauty rituals and playlists for every mood.
•A Private, Off-Social Media Online Community where Sanctuary members gather to share moments of beauty, tenderness and joy, and stay in touch between gatherings.
•Sacred Pause Week A week each month where no new content is released, so you can pause, reflect, digest and integrate.
•An Optional, Small Practice Pod of two-four other members to share the journey, give and receive support, and practice together in community
OUR CURRENT SEASONAL THEME IS…
Embodying Enchantment
When you were a young one, did you believe in magic?
Did growing up convince you to let go of that wonder?
Enchantment is a feminine spiritual calling—a deep craving to connect with the heart of life itself, turning the most ordinary moments into shimmering contact with the miraculous.
For the season of October through December, all of our content, rituals and circles sparkles with the theme of Embodying Enchantment. ✨
From magical touches in your home to sacred bedtime prayers, from enchanted adornment lessons to fairy godmother meditations, every gem you receive will help layer enchantment into the fabric of your daily life.
Join us in this unforgettable season of feminine magic, enchantment and delight!
A Season of Embodying Enchantment
Enchanted Tools & Tutorials You'll Receive
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How To Create An Enchanted Hearth & Home
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Nourishing, Luxurious Beauty Tutorials
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Tiny Rituals For Daily Enchantment
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How To Create Enchantment Through Adornment
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Enchanted Gatherings: A Soulful Approach To Dinner Parties & Celebrations
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Soulful Crafts to Honor The Season
Meet Mary Lofgren
Creator of The Sanctuary & Enchantress In Charge
A few of my simple pleasures: DOGS!, glamour, goddesses, horses, laughter, and goddess-mothering 💅🏼
Hello Beautiful Being!
I’m Mary. I’m the creator of The Sanctuary, and I’m delighted that you are here, sniffing and sensing to see if The Sanctuary is right for you.
The Sanctuary is many things: a membership, a place to learn new tools and skills, a vibrant community; but most of all it is a place to embrace your feminine nature, and come home to the deeper parts of yourself through pleasure, ritual, beauty and embodiment.
A little bit about me:
My career in the embodied arts spans over 20 years. I spent a dynamic decade in the spa industry, where I honed my skills in touch, aroma, and relaxation, helping others rediscover their radiance through beauty as a path to well being.
In my late 20s I discovered the art of burlesque, and went through a profound transformation. Coming from a background steeped in Catholicism, discovering sensual expression was revolutionary for me, and it transformed my relationship with my body.
In 2020, I became a certified Feminine Embodiment Coach, merging my passion for healing through embodiment with a desire to guide and empower others on their journey. I have served hundreds of clients in journeying home the wisdom, intuition, and magnetism of the body. (If you wish to learn more about my story and credentials, you can click here to read more.)
My purpose in creating The Sanctuary is simple: to create a place where those drawn to the warmth of the Divine Feminine can gather, be curious, and explore the meeting place between the sacred and the sumptuous.
Come join us!
Testimonials
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“Mary has revolutionized personal development through femininity. Every lesson is like a detox tea and a cocktail all in one.”
Xandra Sunglim Burns
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Mary’s meditations are like a siren song, each one is a warm comforting hug to the nervous system.
Sonia Figueroa
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I walked out of every session feeling a renewed energy & zest for life.
Michelle Weigle
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I feel completely present in my body when I hear the loving guidance of Mary’s voice, prompts, and visuals.
Miranda Wildman
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“The embodiment process Mary leads you through is utter magic.”
Leeann Dameron
Special Benefits When You Join The Annual Membership
Seasonal Virtual Retreats
Align with the rhythms of nature and cultivate the simple joys of each season. Annual members enjoy these seasonal, virtual retreats to digest the season past, and welcome the unique joys, flavors, and pleasures of the season to come. Our next retreat, “The Wonder of Winter” is coming up on December 17th.
A Private Session with Mary
Put on the kettle! 🫖 It is my pleasure to gift annual members a 30-minute, one-on-one session with me over zoom. I want to intimately know your desires, intentions and challenges so I can give you the most sparkling support possible throughout our journey. This is your moment to receive undivided attention, tailored guidance, and a warm cup of connection.
The Sanctuary Will Support You If…
•You’re seeking a sumptuous, luxurious approach to cultivating presence, created with your feminine soul and spirit in mind
• You lack motivation for self-care practices (because who wants to do them all alone?), and you crave the live support and accountability of fabulously feminine community
•You’re done with the wrecking ball approach to changing your life, and you’re ready for small, inspired shifts that lead to profound transformation
•You have a passion for romance, delight and beauty, as well as depth, soulfulness and meaning
•You want to fill your life with more of the simple pleasures that make life meaningful
•You’re ready to greet your femininity with a warm, prodigal hug, rather than the punch-in-the-shoulder (or hazmat suit avoidance) that you’ve been conditioned to offer.
Join our campfire of connection, and embrace the wisdom and wonder of sensory, feminine spirituality
Begin Your Journey of Sacred, Sumptuous Living Today
All Sanctuary Memberships Include:
✨ Live New & Full Moon Divine Feminine Spirituality Circles, every month
🎧 Luxurious lessons in a weekly Private Podcast
👯♀️ Weekly, 30-minute guided Embodiment Practices
🌳 Access to our garden of pre-recorded classes, meditations, rituals and resources
⏸️ A Sacred Pause week each month to integrate and digest the month’s gems
💐 A private Online Community Gathering Place
$95
✓ The most flexible way to join the journey, with full access to The Sanctuary, one month at a time.
X Seasonal, virtual retreats
X A 30-minute, private session with Mary
X Option to join a small Practice Pod for deeper connection + support
$250
✓ Full access to The Sanctuary for 3-months
✓ A $35 savings
✓ Access to one live, seasonal virtual retreats ($100 value)
✓ Option to join a small Practice Pod for deeper connection + support
X All four seasonal, virtual retreats
X A 30-minute, private session with Mary
$950
✓ A slow, luxurious,12-month journey through The Sanctuary
✓ An abundant, $190 savings
✓ A 30-minute, private session with Mary to welcome you to the community ($250 value)
✓Access to all four seasonal, virtual retreats ($400 value)
✓ Option to join a small Practice Pod for deeper connection + support
FAQ’s
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If you identify as a feminine being (which may include women, non-binary folks, trans and genderqueer folks, folks assigned male at birth but wanting to explore their femininity) you’re welcome here! If you have any questions we’re here to help at hello@schoolofsensualliving.com
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We don’t offer scholarships, but we do offer a Resource Redistribution Rate for those who identify as BIPOC, Gender Variant, Sexy Sage (Over the age of 65), Folks with Disabilities, or Single Parent. We also offer this rate to those who live in countries where there is a -3.0 or more difference in the exchange of currency to USD.
Offering this rate is an effort towards the redistribution of resources to those don't experience the same level of privilege as folks who are white, cisgender, able bodied, heteronormative, etc.
We are sorry but we do not have a financial hardship rate available at this time.
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Our weekly format looks like this:
Tuesday Inspiration (3-minutes) : An email including quotes, book recommendations, recipes, etc., to give you some mid-week inspiration.
Thursday Live Embodiment Practice (30-minutes)
Friday Gem with Podcast & Ritual (about 10-20 minutes)
Monthly Enchantment Circles (45-minutes)
All together, if you participate in every moment of the Sanctuary fully, it adds up to about an hour/week.
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We think of growth and mental health like a house: therapy provides the foundation for a safe and steady space, personal growth provides the furnishings.
The safety and well being of our community members is our top priority. Mindfulness can be supportive, and it can also be triggering when there is active trauma on board. Personal growth containers are not a substitute for therapy, and can sometimes distract from the very important foundational work of therapeutic healing.
Therefore, if you are experiencing a time of instability, serious depression and/or anxiety, or are actively recovering from serious trauma or PTSD, we gently suggest that you not join the Sanctuary until you feel you are in a place of stability.
Mary is a certified Feminine Embodiment Coach, which is a trauma sensitive method of coaching. It is not, however, trauma centric, and is not indicated for the direct healing or resolution of trauma.
If you are in a recovery process, we may ask for a note from a therapist confirming that it is safe to participate in a coaching container before joining.
We wish you and all humans grace and support on the journey of healing. If you have any questions on this or any of our policies, please reach out to hello@schoolofsensualliving.com.
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We host our live events at different times each month so that a variety of time zones can participate. You can check out our calendar for the current season here.
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You 'betcha. All live gatherings will be recorded and available in the online Sanctuary Library.
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We do not offer refunds for month to month purchases, but you can cancel anytime before the 30 day renewal mark, and you will not be charged again.
If you purchase the annual or seasonal membership (yay! welcome!) and after 7 days you feel the experience is not for you, you can request a refund for your purchase amount, less a 10% processing/admin fee.
